Marriage is the union between a man and a woman. Marriage is not just about love walk but a partnership. It is about the fulfillment of destiny and purpose. The reasons for marriage are companionship, sex and procreation. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one, both naked, but not ashamed. Husband and wife are to sync as one if they want to enjoy this institution called marriage.
The purpose for this article is to emphasize on the qualities of a good husband, hence, the need to buttress on this is of utmost priority. Below are top 10 qualities of a good husband.
1. HEADSHIP: He must have a good head on his shoulder because the first place a man shows leadership is in the home. Man is the foundation of the home, everything as regards the home comes from the man while the woman (wife) in the home is to assist. She is the ‘neck’ -your help-mate. She is to support, and be a comforter in the home. The husband is the breadwinner of the home. He should adequately assume this role to perfection.
2. FEEL THE PULSE: A good husband must be able to feel the pulse of his spouse. Know when she is happy and sad, know when to pet her, know when to be soft and hard. Know when a gift will do the magic. Know her likes and dislikes. Build a bond. Learn to talk about anything no matter how insignificant it is, don’t keep silence!
3. ROLE MODEL: A role model is someone who is caring, tender at heart, has a positive influence on people. A leader, a motivator, an encourager, goal-getter, pace-setter. He lays down principle for his followers to follow.
A good husband is a positive role model in the home. His children see him as an embodiment of knowledge and awe. Wisdom resides in and with him. Be a worthy role model.
4. TRUST WORTHY:
“Life is entrusted to man as a treasure which must not be squandered, as a talent which must be used well.” Pope John Paul II
To be trust worthy is to have the ability to be relied on to be good, honest and sincere. It simply means you are reliable. Trust is essential because it will help eradicate doubts and lying tongues of amebos (rumormongers), it helps build a foundation of loyalty and honour. A man that is sincere with all of his heart is a prince charming to his woman. He is the sceptre of respectability. Her pride and Lord. There is more advantage to this for the man who is trustworthy, not only at home but his work place, among his friends and the society at large.
“Do not trust all men, but trust men of worth; the former course is silly, the latter a mark of prudence.” Democritus
To be responsible is to have the job or duty of doing something or taking care of somebody, so that you may be blamed if something goes wrong. A good husband takes responsibility for all that occurs in his home. He accepts responsibility since he has been saddled with the job for the well being of his family. He must anticipates and accepts responsibilities such as spiritual, financial, and others not mentioned but are of utmost importance to him. When a man endeavours to meet the needs of his family in a way that is right such a man tends to be responsible. A responsible man will not involve in things that will endanger his reputation or that of his family. He is smart and wise enough to know that an idle hand is the devil’s workshop. His responsibility is to be responsible for his spouse and children.
Faithfulness in marriage is loyalty. It is staying with or supporting a particular person or belief. To be faithful to your spouse is to;
i. Not cheat on her or have extra-marital affairs outside your matrimonial home. Marriages are destroyed today because of the promiscuity of the man
ii. Resist and flee from any form of temptation that might jeopardise the peace of your home and stay glue to her alone
iii. Teach your spouse the ‘styles’ you enjoy most during sexual intercourse. Practise all of it with her in the confine of your matrimonial bed.
iv. Be discipline, have self-control and stay focus
v. Say the truth at all times and never hide anything from your spouse.
A faithful spouse will enjoy the dividends of marriage to the full because the husband remains the determinant factor of how comely, homely, successful, peaceful and blissful the marriage will be.
7. HELPS HIS SPOUSE TO BE A BETTER INDIVIDUAL.
A good husband supports the spouse and encourages her to be better. He doesn’t feel threatened when she is taking giant strides or achieving great feats in her career or other areas of interest delved into. He gives her room to expand, upgrade and be a better version of herself. A good husband must actively involve in the betterment of the spouse. He can achieve this by;
i . supporting her in all ramifications
ii. See her as his help-mate, better half and not slave
iii. Treat her with respect
iv. Doesn’t shout at her or raise his finger on her
v. Accepts her imperfection without condemning her.
vi. Renders assistance in the home.
vii. Avoids conflicts in the home, and when there is its settled fast and amicably.
8. SELF ESTEEM:
Self esteem is a realistic impression for or favourable impression of oneself. A man may not be rich but treasures a good name than many riches, his integrity and self esteem would speak a whole lot about him. When a man involves in things he is not meant to, such a man puts is family at risk. He toys with the security of his spouse. A woman who feels insecure is a menace to herself, family and society at large. Be wise as a serpent but meek as a dove. Your self-esteem is a virtue, value it tremendously.
9. A GOOD LISTENER:
John Calvin Coolidge Jr, the 30th president of the United States of America postulated “it takes a great man to be a good listener”
As a good husband and great one at that, it is very important to listen to your wife. Listen when she speaks, listen to her groans and yearns because your peace and sound mind are dependent in your listening to her.
It is of great essence to listen if you want to be heard. As the head of the home it is greed to do all the talking and not want to listen at all. This quality is a MUST have in this article of 10 qualities of a good man.
A good husband should always learn to put his foot down when it comes to critical issues in the home.
Above are 10 qualities of a good husband. What are your top 10 qualities of a good husband? Drop your comment in the comment box.