Then the lord God said “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make him a ‘helper’ who is just right for him. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed the opening. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.
At last! The man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman’ because she was taken from man. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Having seen the process God went through to create a woman the role of the woman as a wife is of great significance.
A wife as defined is a married woman, especially in relation to her spouse. The term wife could also be used for a woman engaged or considered in relation to the spouse. These are 10 qualities of a good wife or would be wife in no particular order.
A good wife must be a good cook. The importance of food [this is any substance that can be consumed by living organism, especially by eating, in order to sustain life] to a man is of topmost priority. For a living being to be sustained he/she must eat healthy. A good woman should be able to satisfy the belle of her man with good food. If you can’t cook as a wife then such a woman should learn the intricacy of cooking. You want to sustain your marriage or home? Then you must learn to be a fine cook. A good wife gets up before dawn to prepare food for her household. One of the easiest ways to lose an indiscipline spouse [man] is to be a bad cook at home as a wife.
As a wife or wife to be, you must be teachable. The moment you stop learning you start dying. It is essential for you to be teachable because no man is an island of totality [know it all]. Learn from others that which is good. A man loves and respects a woman that is teachable. Pray for the spirit to be teachable. You might want to ask why, the truth remains that when you are teachable you learn how to sustain your home and have a healthy home.
A wise woman is admonished to submit willingly to her husband as is fitting for those who belong to the Lord. Your submission does not mean you are a fool but it’s seen as a sign of respect and value for your man in that relationship. When you speak, let your words be words of wisdom and give instructions with kindness Wisdom is profitable to direct. Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all your getting get understanding.
To submit is to yield or give way to another. What made the virtuous woman standout and a point of reference by King Solomon in the book of wisdom is her ability to submit to her husband. You want to be a reference point, a pace-setter, an exemplary wife and a respectable woman in your home or community? Be a submissive wife.
Character is like a smoke; it cannot be hidden or covered up. If you have a bad character as a woman the foundation of your home is built upon sand, when the wind blows it collapses. Be a woman of good character for you to be the center of his world. You want to be his pride in the midst of elders [friends] at the gate? Then your character must resemble that of the virtuous woman. Your character is your moral strength; it is your distinguishing factor amongst other, your eccentric and the whole of your essence. Don’t forget that your ability may get you to the top, but it takes good character to keep you there. A woman with a good character is a woman whose price is far greater than rubies. John Wooden is his word says “be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”
I love the way Jim Rohn quotes it and I quote “Character isn’t something you were born with and can’t change, like your fingerprints. It’s something you weren’t born with and must take responsibility for forming.” Are you a woman [wife] with bad character? You can work on it but first you must acknowledge you have bad character issue, after that you can work on it. Your character is the passport to having a healthy marriage and home.
Just like the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 who carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness, a good wife must be hard working too. She should not allow idleness to be her emblem because an idle hand is the devil’s workshop [apprentice]. God has clothed you with strength and dignity, therefore, the future of your home must be well planned and orchestrated by the two of you. Though the saying goes “women are weaker vessels” but I beg to differ because they are strong and model to take good care of their homes. The virtuous woman makes belted linen garments and sashes to sell to the merchants, she makes her own bedspreads, she dresses in fine linen and purple gown, her dealings are profitable:, she has no fear of winter for her household, for everyone has warm clothes, she is energetic and strong, she makes sure her dealings are profitable: her lamp burns late into the night, all these are achieved through hard work not idleness. A good woman must believe in her strength because she is wired with strength, calmness, wisdom, orderliness and grace. God gave her that role at home and He sculptured her to be a ‘help meet,’ the neck that will support the head.
Trust is confidence in or reliance on someone. It is a belief or faith a husband has in his wife. Trust is a vital course in attaining excellence in the school of marriage. It is very essential in all aspect of one’s life and dealings with people. To have a solid relationship with people then build a good foundation of trust and integrity. Your trust level cannot and must not be questioned otherwise you are simply destroying your future. You can easily demolish your home when the ingredient of trust is under threat. Don’t forget one’s image, reputation or trust can be tarnished within a minute and it will take years of hard work to build back. When you are not trustworthy you lose self-confidence, when you are trustworthy you are simply passing a message that states you deserve to be trusted and relied upon. Remember when you are trustworthy that means your husband can trust you. Can your husband trust you with little or much? Can he trust you when you have and don’t have? Can you be trusted in the face of temptation and pressure? Can you be trusted?
When your husband trusts you, you will greatly enrich his life
The story of the virtuous woman reminds of a generous kind of person who brings good, not harm, all the days of his life. Everyone call her blessed because indeed she is a blessing. Have a large heart for your family, your in-laws, your friends, your neighbors and all that come in contact with you. Though some people will definitely take you for a ride but since you understand your goal and objectives of been a generous wife then you must not let such individual direct or dictate your life. A woman with a generous heart loves unconditionally.
“Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly, leave the rest for God” says Ronald Reagan
KNOW THE WORD:
It is very important for a good wife to know the word of God because this is her weapon of welfare when bludgeon by circumstances. Hid the word of God in your heart, treasure it; let it be a light unto your path that will continually guide you. Know the word and live by the word. In Jeremiah 1:5, God said “He knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet [prophetess] to the nations [home]. God ordained you as a wife to your home to be the caregiver, the support vessel, the prophetess of liberation and strength in weakness. He ordained you to be his companion, his mother, and sister. He saddled you with the responsibility of nurturing. You are the one that will help him understand and achieve the responsibility of fruitfulness, multiplication, replenishing, and having dominion. You have a major role to play in that marriage and God has given you the grace to perform these duties but for you to be successful and triumphant in this assignment you must know, live by the word of God and be a praying wife.
BE HIS FRIEND:
A friend is a confidant, they stand by you at all times, a true friend understands you, keep your secrets and fulfill promises. They tell the truth to each other at all times. He/she is a good counselor, knows your fault and weaknesses yet won’t despise you or use it against you. A good friend subtracts from your burden and adds to your joy. Believe you when others, circumstances or situations prove otherwise.
As a good wife be his friend because you possess the key to unlock his destiny and set him free into his bliss. As his best friend you bring out the best in him. Don’t forget friendship is love without wings. You are the determinant factor determining how far he will go in life and how peaceful your home will be.
The relationship between you and your spouse should be one of closet friend.
To buttress my point here I will love to spell out the instruction in the bible as regards sex in 1 Corinthian 7:2-5, and here it is “But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
The place of sex in marriage is very important and we must not take it for granted. Do not starve each other of sex. The cord that binds you together spirit, mind, soul and body is sex. Sex should not be used as a tool of manipulation or punishment for a man. A satisfied man sexually will not easily fall into any form of temptation. Learn all you need as regards sex to have a beautiful home. A sexually satisfied man is a man that walks tall even in the midst of great temptation.
“Sex is an emotion in motion”. Mae West